A rant about identity

"Maybe not the most mentally healthy one but it is very informative"



GENDER RANT

I am BGD. What am I? Cringe. I know I'm not cis, that's about it. Nonbinary seems fair and that seems like a good direction. But that isn't the full story, one must ask what lies further. I have considered mimicnull in the past. I do like it. It also isn't the full story. Masking is weird and I've been sort of devoid of alexythemic or something along those lines for plenty of time. But I don't think that's right. This shouldn't be my label to steal. I don't deserve it.

Masking is still weird. I would have said that among dudes I consider myself a dude simply, one of the bros, as it were, and among women that I consider myself femininely, one of them too. I'm not sure how correct this is anymore. I do feel unhappy with masculinity and more happy with femininity. But I am not completely one or the other. My gender is quantum, it collapses when you try to observe it, from unresolved superpositions. Anh and chị are both fine probably, for those who know.

Mimicnull was developed for neurodivergent people and I can confirm I am indeed one of them. I am a thing that exists. That I also know. I feel undeniably connected to femininity. I don't want to completely abandon masculinity. I am like a cheap knockoff of masculinity, that is what I should be. This is full of tangents and non-answers and that's fine. I did not expect anything more than that.

Am I a dog? Well I'm not not a dog I think. I don't know. I don't think so. Moth, opossum, and raccoon, are the things I am. I don't know. Moth and opossum are somewhat two sides of one coin. This coin is different to the coin with racoons on it. Neither coin is wrong. Neither coin is complete. Both coins represent entirely different parts of me and don't necessarily strictly overlap. I do not want a hybrid either. I have perhaps given myself a losing battle. We'll see.

My gender can be whatever is funniest in the moment or whatever is the most simple. Sometimes the goal is just to shut up the inquirer. So I will tell them what they want to hear. Or because it's funny. Because I love a good funny.

I considered unlabeled too and that's certainly the easiest answer but it is also completely insufficient. I absolutely must have a label. There is no further that the debate will go. I will have the last word. I have gone a long time also thinking that aesthetic attraction must mean that the aesthetic fits me. This isn't the case. I have also gone a long time thinking that aesthetic attraction was romantic attraction or sexual attraction. I can be reasonably certain that I am aroace at least. I don't think I should be. But I am. So that's fine. Being without labels is simply off the table.

Pronouns are difficult. I've used any/all for a while. That's nice. It/its is also tasty to me. Everything else is just not really there. I'm not sure necessarily how much I like these anyway. I am one person. I do a lot of things. I inhabit a lot of roles, a lot of personalities. None of it at the same time. I do not have multiple at once, and they aren't distinct from me, they do not communicate and there is complete shared memory. No alters. That's useful to know at least. I play shmups and I make music but I am not both a musician and a shmup player at the same time. I would say. Or something along those lines.

My self image changes plenty, it seems. And it doesn't change easily. When I was way younger, I watched TMNT, and that was fun and good but afterwards I wasn't me. There's always the meme about downloading your personality from what you watched. I wasn't any of the turtles. I was some raccoon thing. A clever ninja. And I danced around doing poses while wearing a Lungi. This hasn't really stopped but it's changed forms. Sometimes my self portrait in my head is a mix between Marshall Applewhite, and Ranulph Fiennes, in greyscale. That sometimes happens. Sometimes I am just a silly goober :3. Sometimes I am stoic and emotionless and serious. This is one of those times. Sometimes I'm sick, sometimes I'm perfect.

A god, a deity, a holy and perfect thing, with self harm scars. Now what do you think about the image of that. A being so perfect, so superior. What does it mean to you. What do you make of it. Tell me, who ask thee, in detail. Is it a paradox to you? Think on it. I will let you do the work to think about what it means with respect to me. Because I won't. The line "tell me who ask thee" is also a reference to the translation of the Mahabharata attributed to Kisari Mohan Ganguli. Good work. Impressive man. Sometimes I want to be an impressive man. Sometimes I don't want to be a man. Sometimes I want to be a waste. Sometimes I want to be god. There's something in that. Sometimes I feel like I'm kanye west. Or something. That was one that happened after watching a video essay on him. I do not choose what imprints on my self image and when or for how long. It just happens. There is also Stay Ugly, album by sadly defunct Crim3s. I really do like them and I really wish they were active but I'm not necessarily going to complain about it because it is their choice and not mine. EP by them. The cover imprinted. I felt like an entire sweaty and gross cunt the entire rest of the day which was especially not when my sense of identity is apparently as fragile as this as it is. And when I was new to having someone I really liked. We called ourselves girlfriends. That isn't wrong nor is it right even now. But I am in fact still with her and she is absolutely the best. Either way that was interesting. And uncomfortable. But again I do not choose when it happens or how it happens or for how long it lasts, or whence the imprint comes. I invent and repurpose all sorts of words to explain what I need. My sense of self gets overwritten.

I also don't quite know what my name is. I like a lot of names. Being drawn to names also I thought meant that it would be me. This too is false. There are many such names. I was Cadaverine for a while before I realized this does not fit me. Oh well I guess. There are many such names. I feel equally distant to all names that I've tried or found, none of them necessarily work for me it seems. Oreo is another option. Sadly it's copyrighted I guess. But that shouldn't actually matter. It should still be viable. When I was younger I had a friend who had a cat named Oreo. Animal names are a good place to look for me I think. Masculine names also seem to be overall more compelling than feminine names to me. Why is this the case, when I am clearly more feminine oriented? No idea. Maybe I am less of a fraud and a fake if I choose a name like that, maybe I am less of a fiend and a pervert to choose a name that is masculine. Bollocks. This is stupid. I'm stupid. You're stupid. You're not stupid. I suck. I'm just a loser. Well at least an answer was found, perhaps this was not in vain.